Ask The Pastor (9.25.2024)
This session of “Ask the Pastor” covers a wide range of topics, with practical and spiritual advice rooted in scripture. The pastor begins by addressing the purpose of the session, emphasizing the importance of creating an open space for members to ask questions about the Bible, church practices, current events, or personal challenges without hesitation.
Dealing with Stubborn People
The first question discusses how to handle stubborn individuals in life—be it a spouse, children, boss, or coworkers. From a Christian perspective, the pastor highlights four key steps:
1. Pray for Transformation: Stubbornness often stems from a hardened heart, akin to foolishness. Ezekiel 36:26 is cited, encouraging prayer for God to replace the “stony heart” with a heart of sensitivity and understanding.
2. Show Unconditional Love: The pastor acknowledges this as challenging but emphasizes the importance of loving even the unlovable. 1 Corinthians 13:4 underscores the necessity of patience and kindness.
3. Speak the Truth in Love: Stubborn individuals need gentle correction. Referencing Ephesians 4:15 and Proverbs 15:1, the pastor explains how soft, loving words can disarm resistance and foster understanding.
4. Foster God’s Timing: Change happens in God’s time, not ours. Encouraging progress rather than criticizing slow change is vital. Proverbs 16:9 reminds believers to trust God to direct others’ steps.
Responding to Biblical Questions
The second question asks how to respond to people who interrogate or challenge Christian beliefs. The pastor encourages believers to:
• Study the Bible Diligently: Citing 2 Timothy 2:15, the pastor stresses the importance of being prepared to answer questions about faith.
• Know Your Beliefs: Understanding why Christians believe what they do is crucial, especially for addressing topics like salvation or controversial issues like alcohol consumption. The discussion on alcohol highlights biblical passages often cited in support or opposition, emphasizing that believers should avoid behaviors that lead to spiritual compromise.
Planting Churches in Established Areas
Another question explores how to start a church in areas with existing congregations without “stealing” members. The pastor advises focusing on reaching lost souls rather than attracting current churchgoers. He emphasizes collaboration among churches, viewing the larger mission of spreading the Gospel as a collective effort.
Responding to Leadership Failures
A deeper discussion addresses how to reconcile faith when church leaders fail, whether morally, ethically, or spiritually. The pastor offers several guiding principles:
1. Do Not Blame God for Man’s Failure: Humanity’s sinful nature doesn’t reflect on God’s perfection.
2. Avoid Putting Leaders on a Pedestal: Leaders are human and prone to error, just like anyone else.
3. Recognize the Good Done: A leader’s failure doesn’t erase the positive impact they may have had.
4. Embrace Restoration: While severe transgressions like harming children warrant rejection, restoration is key for other failures, provided there is genuine repentance.
Final Thoughts
The pastor concludes with practical advice for handling unresolved stubbornness or failures marked by pride and a lack of repentance. While restoration is ideal, it cannot happen without a willingness to change. He reiterates the importance of patience, prayer, and love in all interactions, encouraging listeners to seek spiritual growth through study and action.